Editor's Note: Dr. Hokemeyer is a nationally recognized expert on Eastern philosophies, relationships, and emotional healing. He is also a part-time Telluride local. His column, Shrink Rap, appears regularly on Telluride Inside… and Out. (For more on his background, go to Our Writers.) This article...
The notion that a man makes a woman, although absurd, is deeply engrained in the female psyche. It tells women they need a man to nurture and love them, to provide for them, and to protect them from the dangers of the world. What it...
Our regular contributor to Shrink Rap, the indomitable Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, has been on an email binge, sending Telluride Inside… and Out stories on topics of that might be of interest to our readers. The first was a study by the Caron Treatment Center about...
With Xmas around the corner, in this installment of Shrink Rap, I want to explore the subject of overspending during the holidays. Hormones play a role. To be more specific, it is really about the hormone dopamine, our body's natural morphine, a substance our brain releases...
Dr. Paul Hokemeyer is the author of one of favorite features: Shrink Rap, which focuses on hot-button physical, mental and emotional health challenges that influence pop culture. The formula is simple: Paul writes a post on a subject of interest and then we get...
My spin on Internet Dating: a mixed blessing Over the last decade, we’ve seen an explosion in Internet dating sites. Today, rather than going into the world to find a romantic partner, we sit alone in front a computer and shop for the man or woman...
The pressure surrounding motherhood in the 21st Century is extraordinary. Everywhere we turn there’s an expert (yes, including me) telling mothers how to do it “right” and “better.” And while this wealth of information is incredibly valuable, it also sets an impossible standard for the person in charge: mothers. In addition, lofty standards mothers feed the cancer of destructive coping mechanisms, the most common of which is drug and alcohol abuse.
Although we’ve made great strides in the field of addiction by de-stigmatizing substance abuse, society continues to maintain stereotypes and myths regarding what an alcoholic/addict looks and acts like. High on that list is the perception that people who abuse substances live substandard lives. In my experience working as a marriage and family therapist with high functioning and successful families at the Caron Treatment Centers in Manhattan, I’ve found nothing could be further from the truth.
By Dr Paul Hokemeyer
Dr. Hokemeyer is a nationally recognized expert on Eastern philosophies, relationships, and emotional healing. A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, he holds a PhD in psychology, as well as a doctorate in the law. A part-time Telluride resident, Dr. Hokemeyer is based in the New York City office of the Caron Treatment Centers. He is also a weekly contributor to "The Dr. Oz Show," CNN’s "Headline News," and other media outlets, including "Good Morning America," "truTV," and "Oprah Radio." His new column, Shrink Rap, is scheduled to appear at least bi-monthly on Thursdays on Telluride Inside... and Out.
Albert Einstein gave us what has become the pop definition of insanity: "Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." No place to point the finger but at yourself if you find yourself involved with the same type of person over and over again despite the fact these relationships always tank.
By Dr. Paul Hokemeyer
Dr. Hokemeyer is a nationally recognized expert on Eastern philosophies, relationships, and emotional healing. A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, he holds a PhD in psychology, as well as a doctorate in the law. A part-time Telluride resident, Dr. Hokemeyer is based in the New York City office of the Caron Treatment Centers. He is also a weekly contributor to "The Dr. Oz Show," CNN’s "Headline News," and other media outlets, including "Good Morning America," "truTV," and "Oprah Radio." His new column, Shrink Rap, is scheduled to appear at least bi-monthly on Thursdays on Telluride Inside... and Out.
From the bra-burning days of the early feminists, what's really changed? Is life out from under a pile of laundry or flour all that women imagined it would be? Is being a 21st-century mom a whole lot better than life as Mrs. Cleaver? From my vantage point as a family therapist, maybe not so much
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By Dr. Paul Hokemeyer
(Editor's note: After a pause to refresh, Telluride Inside... and Out's favorite shrink returns with his every other week column: Shrink Rap. Welcome back, Dr. Paul.)
In my psychotherapy practice I treat lots of adolescents and their parents. One of the changes I’ve observed over the past five years is how dismissive and disrespectful children have become. I attribute this increased lack of respect to the displacement of traditional, human manners with manners learned through the world of technology. Remember the computer from "2001: A Space Odyssey?" Assuming the answer is "yes," is HAL – or his digital spawn – raising your kids or are you?
