Shrink Rap: Dr. Paul on “l’m successful, yet something is missing!”


Shrink Rap: Dr. Paul on “l’m successful, yet something is missing!”

A Telluride local, Dr. Paul Hokemeyer is an internationally recognized expert on treating clinical issues at the nexus of relationships and behavioral health. Dr. Paul’s book,Fragile Power.” is about the psychological challenges of celebrity and power, Go here for our review.

First published in 1709, Tatler is a British rag that has served up a powerful mix of glamour, fashion, society and features since, wait for it, 1709. In the following article Dr. Paul, a “Tatler expert,” responds to the quandary:”I’m successful and my family are financially secure, yet I still feel something is missing. What’s wrong?”

Or as the British rag introduced the story: “As part of the Tatler SOS Experts’ Corner, we delve into the subject of improving one’s human capital, essentially how you can prepare the next generation for your money, exploring themes of mental wellbeing, family dynamics and conflict. Here Dr. Paul Hokemeyer from Drayson Mews shares his advice on finding fulfillment after success.”

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Dr, Paul

First, take a slow, steady and deep breath. Now, hold it and exhale even more slowly as I deliver the good, well actually, great news: There’s absolutely nothing wrong and an enormous amount that’s right with your current feelings.

Your sense of deficiency and disquiet are providing valuable information that will motivate you to continue striving for ‘better’ in your life, the lives of your loved ones and the world around you. So, relax. Your feelings don’t indicate a deficiency; they signify high emotional intelligence and a keen intuition.

They’re manifestations of your restlessness, persistence, intentionality, boldness and daring. In short, they indicate your strength as an entrepreneur and innovator who is constantly striving to improve yourself, your loved ones and the world you feel privileged to inhabit.

They also hold you in esteemed company. One of the most venerated mental health innovators of the 20th century was an academic and clinician named Abraham Maslow. Dr Maslow studied human motivation and in particular, what causes people to push through discomfort to attain higher levels of happiness and satisfaction.

According to Maslow, to reach a state of optimal performance and happiness, human beings need to attain mastery over three increasingly challenging areas of their lives. In what has become well known as Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, Maslow defined these areas by the needs they represented and the tasks required to satisfy those needs.

The first level of these are what he labelled our ‘basic needs’…

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Dr. Paul Hokemeyer

Dr. Paul Hokemeyer

Paul Hokemeyer , J.D., Ph.D., is the world’s leading authority on the need for culturally competent care in the treatment of people of power and celebrity. An internationally renowned Marriage and Family Therapist, he is the author of the book, “Fragile Power: Why Having Everything Is Never Enough.” (Hazelden, 2019).

His work in the realm of mental health and power has been utilized by the World Economic Forum and the Emirate of Dubai Chamber of Commerce.

Dr. Paul has appeared regularly in a variety of media outlets including CNN, FOX News, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Entrepreneur, Men’s and Women’s Health, and The Johns Hopkins Newsletter.

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